This is beautiful. And on the topic of sleepovers and kids getting stuck in uncomfortable situations: My mom and I had a code, ever since my first sleepover. I would always call home to say goodnight, and if I asked “How is the cat doing?”, it meant that I wasn’t comfortable and I wanted her to pick me up. I did use this code a few times, and whenever I did, my mom came up with the excuses for me. I was never stuck at a sleepover I didn’t want to be at - and as a child with anxiety and social phobia, this was a great system.
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Once, I was at a friend’s birthday party, and they began to play strip poker and 7 minutes in heaven and immature stuff like that. I am the biggest virgin that you’ve ever known, so I pretended like my phone was vibrating, punched in my mom’s speed dial, and when she answered, I said “Hey mom, whatcha need? *Pause* oh, okay. So I have to come home now? Yeah, sorry, I’ll clean my room right when I get there. *pause* ten minutes? Okay, that works. See ya.” and she understood exactly what I wanted, and she came and picked me up, and even scolded me in front of my friends for ‘not cleaning my room’. I’ve used this so many times, it isn’t funny. My mom is so understanding each time.
And now I must hug my mother and post 5 million mom appreciation posts.
I take issue with the not forcing kids into sports/music/art thing though. A lot of kids will never get into these things if they aren’t introduced to it at a young age. I have a lot of friends that didn’t start art or singing or dance or riding until high school or college, and have remarked that they wish there parents had started them on this stuff when they were kids.
A better version would read: “My will be introduced to a variety of activities, but I will not force them to continue a sport/music/activity they do not enjoy, nor will I make them be competitive in them and take away enjoyment they do have.”
^I agree with the point made up here - but of course I also appreciate the overall idea that as a parent your job is to guide with understanding and not to live vicariously through your children. Forcing children “just because” is wrong.
In psychology, child development is shown to be healthy and most beneficial when done by an authoritative parent - authoritative being defined as “having high expectations (because this nurtures the idea that you believe in your child - set expectations too low and they assume its because you don’t think they can do better) having a structured parenting style with consistent rules, but also offering support and help when children falter due to true mistakes or things beyond their control”.
Parenting doesn’t come with a manual, but as long as you treat you children as DEVELOPING humans - who don’t always have the capability to see what’s right due to their brain physically not being at the adult level but still deserve respect and explanations because that encourages critical thinking and allows them to grow in understanding the logic of things - they will come out pretty okay.
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